It’s been a long summer with one noticeable difference from the other seasons spent in Colorado. A noticeable difference beside the ones in culture and in geography and in eating. That would be the lack of intrusion from any of the 24/7 news outlets we are prone to be seduced by in the US. There is the reading by choice of headlines and then the delving into what seems important, even if that choice is largely subjective.

As such it was easy to move into the 20th anniversary of 9/11 with relative ease because it’s the week we are leaving…

Every so often there is a squeak of a sound in the news with the word Guantanamo attached to it. It seems to be a noise or an image that most Americans would rather not hear or see or think about. The subject itself generally doesn’t seem to merit first page placement, digitally speaking that is. It is whimpering through however, because hearings are about to resume AGAIN in September.

A fellow member of my pool class in Colorado, in the spring stated spritely apropos of my question as to whether he thought Guantanamo should be closed, “Of course not…

I, for one, don’t like to be called stupid. Which sometimes happens when I read some of what Umair Haque, a noted thought leader, has to say in his frequent posts on Medium. His pieces are often filled with dire diagnoses and predictions about our politics and our planet, and I confess to often enough running in the opposite direction, angry at his anger. But his ten-minute read (and this is long on Medium!) on August 11, 2021, had me gripped in the necessity of staying still and reading. Not only reading but considering and not only that but…I’ll tell…

The headline read, “How Black Women Can Interpret Those Scary Health Statistics”, and its subtitle read “Doomsday headlines are nothing new. But over time they can damage your mental health if you’re not careful.”

Man, second that emotion. I’m not Black and I’m not a young mother but the story hit me where I live much of the time, in my intestinal track so to speak. (The story is by Jacquelynn Kerubo, in the New York Times, July 12, 2021).

The Times story highlights the way stories of doom and gloom, with statistics to prove them, can scare Black women…

He taught me that I have it. In a very relevant article from 1998, called “The Borscht Belt Hits Broadway: Yea or Oy Vey?” (Moment Magazine, by Alexander Wohl) there are some quotes from Jackie Mason. Jackie Mason who just died today at the age of 93.

Try this on, and this is only a hint of what Jackie Mason did in his shows:

“I hate Chinese,” says Mason. “They never eat in a Jewish restaurant. I never saw one Chinaman who said to me, ‘I’m looking for a nice piece of gefilte fish.’ “

“My best friend is half…

We are the Good and They are the Evil: They Deserve what they Get and Guantanamo Remains Open

Americans, most Americans that is, seem mortally outraged by the notion that we can be responsible and should be held accountable for brutality against Black people, indigenous people, prisoners, and for the purposes of this article, prisoners of Guantanamo. And even here, the use of the word “prisoners” is considered a grievous error because prisoners would be covered by the rules of the Geneva Convention while detainees are not.

It has been considered un-American to see our country as committing terrorist acts…

To rely on Carl Jung a bit, the shadows are where our unwanted or feared emotions go. We deny them and use them to project onto others whom we demonize.

The points you raise in your piece are helpful and for some of us starting points to make changes and speak our own truth. Thanks.

I'm glad you are writing about this. One kind of constructive envy--if felt and not acted out--is the envy of children. I am in menopause, let's say and my daughter is 20 years old. She is gorgeous and seems to have the world in front of her. She has had an easier and more fulfilling and less traumatic childhood than I did. I felt envious and then I felt of course, how could I not? But because I have loved and love her, my love is stronger. And because I knew my envy it did't strangle me or her.

It's not the most common or acceptable thing to admit.

Passover and the Meaning of Exodus: Making it Personal

After years and years of creating what our family and friends had come to refer to as an “alternative Seder” I’ve realized I just don’t have it in me anymore. Or perhaps it would be more fitting to say the format doesn’t fit — again for me that would be. The presence of very young grandchildren in our lives may just have tilted my world just enough for me to realize some other reasons that it’s time for a change.

For over 40 years we did our version of an alternative…

Forgive us our Sins: Guantanamo and our Aversion to Remorse

“To dehumanize another human being is…a process and a programming. It takes energy and reinforcement to deny what is self-evident in another member of one’s own species.” P. 141

p.142 “A caste system relies on dehumanization to lock the marginalized outside of the norms of humanity so that any action taken against them is seen as reasonable.”

Caste: The Origins of Our Discontents

Isabel Wilkerson, Random House, 2020

According to the Moral Injury Project at Syracuse University, moral injury is “the damage done to one’s conscience or moral compass when…

Carol Smaldino

A psychotherapist, a New Yorker living between Colorado and Italy (in good times) I am passionate about the role of emotions and awareness for evolving,sanity

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